Obituary of Frederick Robert Gary Callender
Our dearly beloved, Frederick Robert Gary Callender, 59, of Atlantic City, New Jersey passed away peacefully in his sleep in the early hours of Tuesday, July 27, 2021. Fred was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey on February 22,1962. He was educated in the Atlantic City Public Schools. After completing school, Fred held employment at many of the hot spots in and around Atlantic City such as The Tiki Terrace and The Midtown Motor Inn. He then went on to Utica and Buffalo, New York where he received his training and CDL to drive tractor trailers trucks. Fred was known to his family and friends as "Fred," "Freddie" and "Aqeel." Fred was a bubbly kind of guy who loved the fast-track life, often seeking the happening and jet-setting lifestyle. He loved to travel at the drop of a hat. He was adventurous; always exploring his favorite destinations in New York, New Jersey, Washington, DC, Pennsylvania, Maryland. He enjoyed traveling to see his relatives scattered along the East Coast. His visits were always joyous and a welcomed pleasure as he brought the sunshine with him wherever he went. In his youth, Fred was a wonderful and hip dancer who loved to dance. However, as he got older, he became less mobile because of a bone condition which affected his knees. He was very determined to fight and would not let his disability stop him from getting around. As his condition worsened, Fred resorted to riding around Atlantic City on a red mobility scooter that he dubbed 'the Caddie." He enjoyed listening to music while riding "the Caddie" throughout the city and could be seen everywhere -- uptown in the inlet, or downtown on the boardwalk taking in the ocean views and waves. He was very well known and seemed to know everyone whereever he went--giving out many greetings along the way. Fred found the outdoors rejuvenating and thumping with life; people to see, places to go, things to do and stuff to buy. He was a serious and detailed shopper who knew a deal when he saw one. He investigated and tested everything thoroughly and was up on all of the latest technological advancements and gadgets. He became a shopping and buying expert and gave this advice freely. Just as Fred enjoyed being outdoors socializing, he also knew how to create balance in his life. He divided his time in his sanctuary watching movies or with the people closest to him. He enjoyed laughing and dining at home perhaps, sharing a bushel of fresh steamed crabs. He cherished the relationships that he had with his children, his siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins and friends. These relationships meant everything to him. He was very loving, kind and generous to all. He was always giving of himself and showing care and consideration toward others. He was indeed "LOVE." Fred is predeceased by: his parents, Gloria E. Callender and Frederick R. Gary; son, Isiah Ruffin; sisters, Frances D. Haywood, Gloria D. Smith, and Barbara A. Jubilee; brothers, Charles E. Callender and Marvin L. Callender. Fred is survived by: his sons, Frederick G. Callender Hayes of Atlantic City, and Demetrius of Sicklerville, New Jersey; daughter, Akeema "Dequahn" Guess of Harrisburg, Pennsylvania; grandchildren, Raquil F. Hayes, Ramir N. Hayes, Ja'layah Ruffin, Humzah, Nazirah and Namirah Ruffin, all of Atlalntic City; great-granddaughter, Adril'Ella S. Hayes; sisters, Carol B. Derrick, Charlene Roberts, Deborah Callender, Twana Callender, Desiree Callender of Pleasantville, Diya Brown of Galloway and Patricia Gary of Patterson, NJ; brothers, Stanton Callender, Kevin Callender of Atlantic City and Lorenzo Callender (Kim) of East Orange, NJ; sister-in-law, Mary Callender of Pleasantville; brothers-in-law, Ernest Jubilee of Galloway, Wendell Smith of Mithchelville, MD. and Lloyd Haywood; a host of nieces and nephews, Shelly Derrick, Stephanie Derrick, Cassie Derrick, Brian Haywood, Craig Haywood, Eric Haywood, Danny Haywood, Ronald Haywood, Charlene Callender , Stacy Rogers, Kim Rogers, Melvin Rogers, Angie Catalan, Mia Jubilee, Mackie Jubilee, Moddie Callender, Lytel Callender, Hakeem Callender, Crystal Marshall, Rodney Marshall, Crystal Peoples, Sellers Ingram, Tynisa Ingram, Marlon Callender, Nikiya Callender, Felicia Callender, Stanton Umar Callender, Tonya Gary, Tawana Bellinger, Mikel Callender, Jovan Callender, Andre Callender, Hasan Callender, Khayree Callender, Fanta Weekes, Kwesi Weekes, Ajene Weekes, Diarra Weekes, Jwyanza Weekes, Daarinah Henry, Ameenah Wins-Hill ,Ashanti Wilson, Barry Callender, Brandon Calllender, Brandi Callender, Joe Callender, Yadia Brown, Adal-Aziz Brown, Basimah Brown, Halimah Brown, Michael Brown; and many more other family and friends; as well as a special family friend, JoAnn Pullen. Fred's humor and sunny presence will be sorely missed by his loved ones and all who knew him. We will forever hold him dear to our hearts as we journey on without him. A visitation will be from 11AM until 1PM, Tuesday, August 3, 2021 at the All Wars Memorial Building, 1510 Adriatic Avenue, Atlantic City, New Jersey. Arrangements are entrusted to Greenidge Funeral Homes, Atlantic City, where condolences may be left at www.greenidgefuneralhomes.com.